The wife and I, unfortunately, have ended up by random chance living in the same city as her brother.
We avoid spending time with him and his family as a rule because for one thing we don't enjoy each others company and they have never been close.
This of course is suboptimal as far as her parents are concerned so every no and again we realize we have nothing to do but meet up with them.
But here comes the other reason. Following this visit, as with all the rest...