The wife and I, unfortunately, have ended up by random chance living in the same city as her brother.
We avoid spending time with him and his family as a rule because for one thing we don't enjoy each others company and they have never been close.
This of course is suboptimal as far as her parents are concerned so every no and again we realize we have nothing to do but meet up with them.
But here comes the other reason. Following this visit, as with all the rest...
A few days go by and... the wife's parents get very upset with her and attempt to give her quite the scolding because as ever, something that we did, didn't do, said, didn't say, intimated, insinuated or seemed to indicate has caused her brother offence.
This time it was that we didn't spend the required amount of time cooing over his infant son.
This, because his a parent, ergo insane, is a huge slight. And because he's a man child sent him running to his parents to complain of our rudeness.
@rpcutts What I would do and what you would do are probably poles apart.
"Oh dear, I'm sorry he's upset with us. What a shame, and there was us going to offer to babysit for them."
Course, that could backfire on you and they take you up on the offer. Bwahahaha
@dick_turpin he's a thundercunt and she's a wankpuffin.
While at lunch she told the wait staff that her 4 year old child had a refined palate. My eyes nearly rolled all the way to my sphincter.
@rpcutts Sounds like my Sister-in-law. We call her Lady Beckham. She invited us round a good few years ago to look at the En Suite her then partner had recently fitted. It was a a bog and a shower in the bedroom! The best laugh was the shower tray was literally 2ft from the bed. How I didn't burst out laughing I don't know although she wasn't impressed when I asked if I could give the toilet a try. Bwahahaha
@rpcutts Sounds a strange chap. Firstly, to be slighted that you don't admire his offspring and then to go bleating to Mummy.
@andyc fucking weird, right? (It's daddy, always daddy, but you have the gist)
@rpcutts Are you his missus isn't exerting pressure on him ? Just sounds (without being a sexist pig) very un-male type behaviour.
@andyc perhaps. They are both equally pompous bizarre. I dunno if they were always cunts or if they get taught at Oxford.
This is the same man that fell out with his mother when she told him they were going to stop paying for his credit card. I think he was about 37 at the time.
@rpcutts Christ - if my son ever came bleating to me with similar complaints, I think I'd disown him and/or give him a damn good talking to.
While it's horrid to be for your wife to be estranged from close family, is it really worth maintaining this relationship ?
The counterpoint that I hadn't had xmas with my family group for 6 years and not since my sister had had her kids... well this fell on deaf ears.
Relies like "when is a good time to call you so we can talk about this"
I just had to be exceedingly blunt in the end.
This is verbatim:
"The parents told me that you're not keen on joining us over Christmas. Let me know when you can talk and let's see what we can sort out. "
"I've made plans with my sister. It will be our first together with my niece and nephew"
"I understand all your reasons. But we haven’t had xmas together in 3 years. So have a look at the details of the house and let me know if you're ok with the location"
"I'll be spending that Christmas with my sister"
Just exhausting. All very alien to me. I have a small family that leave me mostly alone. We hang out with the family we like. Don't all get together to pretend we are BFFs only to fight the whole time.
Stream of inane drivel.
Some legacy microblogging.
Carrying bags of sand and what have you.